As a Colorado Springs Mortgage Lender, one of my responsibilities is to lead my clients through the decision making process as it relates to the options available, with the goal of educating them to the point that they make an informed decision that best fits their specific situation. Sometimes, the best option is very clear, while other times it takes some work to wade through the pros and cons before they can get comfortable with a decision. Regardless, this Colorado Springs Mortgage Lender realizes that one of the reasons they have entrusted me to help with their home financing needs is due to my ability to lead.
This same responsibility to lead requires even more of me in my role as a husband and father, as I believe that it is something which is required of me as head of my family. While leading comes natural for most men, the discipline of leading a family over many years seems to ebb and flow through the various seasons of life. Since this is a calling that does not always produce immediate tangible results, and which goes against a culture that measures success by immediate results instead of effort and discipline over extended periods of time, this Colorado Springs Mortgage Lender has to continually refocus himself on the long term benefits of continuing to lead his family, even when there seems to be no forward movement.
A couple of examples of what can detract from the call to lead a family are the pursuit of career success and accomplishment, with the belief that the long hours away from the family will eventually benefit the family in the form of monetary gain; and the need to over indulge in recreational activities as a form of release from the pressures of everyday life. While neither striving to build a successful career or enjoying recreational activities are bad things in and of themselves, devoting too much time to either at the expense of one’s calling to lead their family can become counterproductive and damaging to the family.
I touch on this subject not as an expert in family psychology, nor do I exclude the leadership role which a mother plays in the family, as I feel it is a vitally important part of a healthy family; instead I discuss this subject because I am a man who at different times in my life has fallen into the pattern of chasing success and/or recreational pursuits at the expense of truly leading my family. As a Colorado Springs Mortgage Lender, I take my profession seriously and always strive to serve my clients to the best of my ability, yet my career will never have the same importance as the calling I have to lead my family through the trials we will face in this ever changing culture.
Let me leave you with the lyrics to a song by Sanctus Real, which I feel does a great job of speaking to the leadership calling of a husband and father.
Lead Me
I look around and see my wonderful life, almost perfect from the outside.
In picture frames I see my beautiful wife, always smiling, but on the inside, I can hear her saying…
“Lead me with strong hands, Stand up when I can’t; don’t leave me hungry for love, Chasing dreams, what about us?
Show me you’re willing to fight, That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home, But I still feel alone”
I see their faces, look in their innocent eyes, They’re just children from the outside
I’m working hard, I tell myself they’ll be fine, They’re independent,
But on the inside, I can hear them saying…
“Lead me with strong hands, Stand up when I can’t; don’t leave me hungry for love,Chasing dreams, but what about us?
Show me you’re willing to fight, That I’m still the love of your life
I know we call this our home, But I still feel alone”
So Father, give me the strength, To be everything I’m called to be
Oh, Father, show me the way, To lead them, Won’t You lead me?
To lead them with strong hands, To stand up when they can’t; don’t want to leave them hungry for love, Chasing things that I could give up
I’ll show them I’m willing to fight, And give them the best of my life
So we can call this our home, Lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone
Father, lead me, ’cause I can’t do this alone